There are many ways to be supportive to those that we care about that have BPD. One way is to be compassionate and think about how our words and comments are perceived by them. Keep in mind that small events can seem overwhelming to those with BPD. It’s the same for our comments. Some common phrases that everyone says to one another can be deeply hurtful to someone with BPD. Consider this article by Mikel of BPD Central India where he lists six particular comments that are not harmless. https://bpdcentralindia.com/2020/10/09/6-comments-that-really-hurt-bpds/